Today I'm sharing a very special guest post from 12 year old Sarah Edge. I was contacted by her mom, who not only is a This Mom Loves supporter, but was also my high school French teacher. (Knowing that I went on to complete my university degree in French and began my career teaching the subject, you'll understand that she had an important influence on me!) I am very happy to be able to share Sarah's message with you here today, and I'll let her take it from here. ***************
I am 12 years old now. I love riding horses and have won quite a few ribbons.
But I almost died when I was very little. I started out okay, then went into heart failure when I was 6 weeks old. I had to have a heart transplant when I was 18 months old, after living at the Hospital for Sick Children for 3 1/2 months.
(That's also Sarah, at age 5, on the poster!)
I am doing really well now. I have been to the Canadian Transplant games twice. It was awesome to make so many friends there, and see so many kids and grownups that have been saved by an organ transplant. I love to swim and kayak. But horseback riding is my favorite thing of all. It's so much fun and also keeps me healthy. I have to take good care of this precious heart, because I am so lucky to have it. I also needed 66 units of blood when I was sick, so I really want to convince more people to donate blood and to register to be an organ donor.
ANYONE WHO WOULD ACCEPT AN ORGAN FOR HIM OR HERSELF OR A LOVED ONE SHOULD REGISTER.
When I first realized that some perfectly healthy organs don't get used, I was shocked. I just couldn't imagine putting something in the ground that could save 8 lives! After all, we're supposed to recycle! :P
Nobody knows when somebody we love might need an organ transplant. I sure hope that if they do, that all of the people who pass away that could give an organ will decide to donate. I asked my mom what it was like to be hoping somebody else's child died so that I could live, but she explained that it's not like that at all. Bad things happen all of the time, she just hoped and prayed that no organ would be wasted, and if one was available, they would decide to help me live.
So please take the time to register. Just grab your health card and you can do it right here! If you think you've already registered, you can check here to be sure. Please talk to your family too.
There are tons of opportunities to get involved at school. Many take place during the workday of course, which isn't an option for a lot of parents, but if you're able, you can go on field trips, help in the classroom with reading, science workshops or arts and crafts, work in the library, prepare hot lunch, or even be one of those lice-checkers! (There's a waiting list for those positions. Just kidding.)
Parents who work or are at home with little ones during the day have options as well, as lots of planning, shopping, ordering, calling, sewing, writing, decorating, cleaning-up and number-crunching for school activities can be done outside of the regular school/work day. There's definitely something for every interest and talent, and roles can be ongoing or just a one-time thing.
Your child's teacher is the best contact if you want to be involved directly with his or her class, but as your kids get older there may be less of a need - and they may be less inclined to want you so close!
You can also check in with the school secretary, who will definitely have her finger on the pulse of what opportunities there may be for parent volunteering, and consider attending a School Council meeting. Even if you don't want to commit to a position on the Council, you can learn a lot about what's happening with your school, especially in terms of parental involvement, by being present at the meetings.
Even if you're able to make appearances at sporting events, Fun Fairs, concerts and recitals (or send a grandparent in proxy) it sends an important message to your kids about how much you value what goes on at their school.
A note about my TV wardrobe:
When I arrived last night, host Teresa Kaszuba complimented my outfit and jokingly asked if I was really a teacher, because I didn't look like one (I quipped back that I just play one on TV. Hey, thought that was a pretty good one!)
I have to admit I actually come home and change before I head into the Peterborough station. While it is very rare for me to wear heels in my primary classroom, and we are encouraged to have our shoulders covered in the workplace, on CHEX I am aiming for a teacher-slash-stylish-TV-personality look...so I amp it up a bit before I go!
My friend Krista has done it again! This time she organized a super fun "Amazing Race" themed party for her daughter's birthday. If you're not a fan of the show, the details may be a bit confusing...but if your family does enjoy watching, it might be a great party theme to consider! Colour Scheme: Red and yellow with black and white as accent colours (Amazing Race colours) Decorations: "Name's Amazing Race" signs and red and yellow balloons were all over the outside and inside of the house Cake: Vanilla cupcakes with red sugar sprinkled on top in red liners and Amazing Race Flags as decorations
Loot Bags: Once the girls were in teams (they selected a random piece of coloured paper out of a bag and on the count of 3 they held out their hands and opened the paper to reveal which team they would be on) they received the matching coloured bag (to collect all of their clues), an Amazing Race water bottle, a bag of cheesies (snacks) and matching coloured sweatbands and bandana (to be worn during the race). All items were purchased at the dollar store, other than the water - and Krista added the labels herself.
The second part of loot bags was matching blankets and glow sticks:
As teams arrived at the Pit Stop (made out of an old bath mat and coloured duct tape) they were allowed to select which matching blankets they wanted (which Krista thought was appropriate since the party was also a sleepover). It became a prize for finishing the race, and part of their loot bags. (Blankets purchased at Giant Tiger for $10 and glow sticks at Dollar Store.) The first place team received a dollar store trophy too!
A peek at the Pit Stop:
Route Info and Envelopes: Krista would like to thank Chica and Jo's website for offering editable clues (details about their Amazing Race party available there as well). She found a couple of clue ideas on the Internet and also made up a few of her own.
I have saved all of Krista's clues to Google Drive (three separate documents) which you can access here (feel free to use them!):
As I read over her challenges, I was thinking that not only are they fun for kids, but many grownups would enjoy participating in an Amazing Race party too! Many of the same clues could be used, or they could be adapted to be as "adult" as you want!
First Leg: “Hold Onto Your Spoon”
Second Leg: “X Marks The Spot”
Third Leg: DETOUR “Squash It” or “Washer It”
Fourth Leg: ROAD BLOCK “Poem Madness"
Fifth Leg: FAST FORWARD “Oreo Kidding Me?"
Sixth Leg: DETOUR “Lucky Doubles” or “Lucky Charms”
Seventh Leg: SPEED BUMP (means go back and do the other detour that you didn’t choose and do it)
Eighth Leg: ROAD BLOCK “TWEEZE ME CRAZY”
Ninth Leg: “You Better Do It Write"
Tenth Leg: FAST FORWARD “Don’t Burst My Bubble”
Eleventh Leg: “Don’t Be a Buckethead”
Twelfth Leg: “It’s Time to Build A Tower”
Final Leg: FIND THE HIDDEN TRAVELOCITY GNOME!
Gnome was purchased at Green Earth:
Krista says that the order of the clues doesn't matter, so feel free to switch it up. You need a copy of the clues for each team you have playing, and some supervisors (she enlisted grandparents) working at each station.
Teams were not allowed to leave their teammates behind and everyone was encouraged to be positive and a good sport to other teams. The girls had so much fun running the race and it just so happened that the birthday girl and her teammate ended up the winners!
Thanks again for sharing your (ahem) "amazing" ideas with us, Krista!
So, you know how TV is full of reruns all summer? I'm switching that up a little bit and sharing some recaps with you in September...as we're all getting used to being back-to-school, and I'm teaching a new grade, too!
Since you may have been travelling or just staying offline in the summer, you might have missed some of the action that happened here on the blog (probably the most exciting summer ever on This Mom Loves).
My first meeting with Traci Melchor, eTalk reporter and co-host of THE SOCIAL, was very brief...for a good reason. As I ran into her in the wardrobe room on my behind-the-scenes visit to THE SOCIAL, she was busy selecting her outfit for a special occasion that day: an interview with Dwayne "The Rock" Johnson.
We chatted briefly - she complimented my outfit, told me how excited she was to be interviewing her "future husband" (she makes no secret of her crush on The Rock) and promised that we could talk again later.
As the day filled up, we decided that a future phone chat was the best bet for our interview, and we finally coordinated our schedules last week for a great conversation.
On THE SOCIAL, Traci comes across as a bit of a comedic princess, openly joking about how she likes her lighting just so and her face on-camera as much as possible, while throwing out zany one-liners and non-sequiturs (she often has co-hosts Lainey Lui and Melissa Grelo giggling like schoolgirls on the other side of the table after one of her remarks).
While chatting one-on-one with this single mom (twins Phoebe and Phoenix are nine years old), I got to see a different side of Traci, and I have to admit I was a bit surprised by the depth and wisdom in her responses. There's something here for every mom to learn from. Enjoy!
You recently went through a battle with cancer (a rare form calledDFSP, dermatofibrosarcoma protuberans; more details here). How much information did you share with your kids, and how did you decide what to tell them?
I didn't share anything with them right off the top. Because my daughter discovered the spot, which led to my whole diagnosis, I didn't want to scare them. I knew I was going to be on bed rest and incapacitated for three weeks and they would have to see that, so I felt that that, in addition to knowing I had cancer, would be too much for them. I also realized that I was going to have to deal with my own battle and figure that out first, but when I was over the hump and able to walk a bit more and they could see that I was on the mend and on the other side of it, that's when I told them. We had the conversation during my recovery.
Lainey Lui, Melissa Grelo, Cynthia Loyst, Traci Melchor
A question from a reader: "You're bubbly and friendly and a pleasure to watch on TV. Staying 'on' must take a lot of energy, especially as a single mom at home. How do you recharge your batteries and what do you do for 'me time'?"
You know I love my job, and even when I'm not at work I'm on my iPad, I'm doing research, reading newspapers and books and things like that, so that all feeds in to my job, but as my recovery continues I will start adding an exercise program into my life when I can figure out the time. I really started delegating things in my life, and I know that's not an option for everybody but instead of doing my laundry every weekend I go to Wash-and-Fold, and I just drop it off and then pick it up on Sunday so I can have more time with my children. I also have a personal organizer come into my house a few times a month because for me parenting is challenging and it's great but no one ever told me about the amount of paperwork that comes with parenting. It can be very overwhelming with permission forms and extracurricular activities and "oh, it's green day today!". Keeping track of all of that is overwhelming so I'm not opposed to delegating anymore. I also let some things slide, and I have to get over it. I've even simplified my home. I only have white towels and white sheets so I don't have to worry about things matching all the time. If it's a white fitted and a white flat it's going on my bed. I don't get caught up in things like that. I've also even edited my kitchen. Now all my dishes are white, shatterproof Corelle. If people come over I can put out some fancy napkins with them. Streamlining is still a work in progress, but I find you don't need all that 'stuff' and it can bind you down because you have to clean it and figure out a place to keep it. Simplifying really helps.
Traci's Long Hair Look
(Photo courtesy CTV)
What would you say is the hardest thing about co-parenting with an ex? Do you have any tips for parents struggling with that?
I went to therapy with my ex after we broke up. He was looking for reconciliation and I was just looking to be able to speak to him in a civil manner. I find reading books on being divorced is helpful. I finally got it - I was on the jury for the TIFF Kids' Film Festival, and they had a couple of short films about children of divorce and there was one little moment that caught me. A lot of parents don't like to send the children's best clothes or best shoes to the ex's place, because they're afraid it's not going to come back, or not come back in the same condition, and during the course of the last year I realized that only hurts the child. When a child is seeing the other parent they want to feel confident and comfortable, it could be a new family situation, stepmom or stepdad and it's just stuff. Kids grow so fast and they're going to outgrow something and never get a chance to wear it half the time because we're not sending it between households. I think as parents we really have to let go of that stuff, if the child has a favourite pair of running shoes or whatever. We also can't send messages to the other parent through the children. No money messages. You really have to get on the same page. It's hard because it took my ex a while to come around to the idea that I'm not trying to fight, I'm just trying to coparent. I think there were hurt feelings on his part, but that's not saying I was a saint or a martyr in the situation because I'm sure if you talked to him, I brought my own issues to it too! My kids are gone to LA right now, they're staying with their dad for the month of August and it's the longest they've been away from me, but I made an effort to pack each of them a proper suitcase, very organized with their favourite stuff, because I want them to feel confident and loved and secure with their dad, not just with me. We have to be the adults in those situations and figure it out for our kids, because they're the ones that get hurt. I'm still a work in progress - I was combing Phoebe's hair a while ago, and we were having this nice bonding moment facing the bathroom mirror and she was talking about something and I must have rolled my eyes because she said "Why is it that whenever I talk about Daddy you roll your eyes?", so that's something I have to work on. I keep thinking I'm doing all these great things but she's still getting those messages from me. Work in progress! What's the funniest thing that's happened on the set of THE SOCIAL?
Well, just today we were talking about urban chicken farming and someone brought up ticks and I screamed out erratically "Did you know that a tick is an arachnid?" I just never knew that before and it really freaked me out. Everyday I'm just saying these things! Someone came up to me after the show and said she thought the quote of the day was me saying that the raccoons in my neighbourhood are "like gangstas who wear their baseball hats backwards". Sometimes I don't really think about what I'm going to say before I say it! Obviously when we know the topics we're going to cover I think about those and prep myself and research but the beauty of our show is that we listen and have an actual conversation, so sometimes I'm just going to blurt out "ticks are arachnids"!
Is there any celebrity out there you'd still love to interview?
Tina Turner. Definitely.
Traci's New Do
(Season 2 Photo Courtesy CTV)
Here's the last question, and it's a big one: your haircut. You've had it for several months now, so I'm wondering how you feel about it, and if you've had any regrets?
Since I first got my haircut in December of last year, I've actually cut it even more - now the sides are shaved! That happened after I came back from the cancer and the surgery and I'd been lying in bed for three weeks and there was a lot of dead, sick energy in my hair so that's why I shaved the sides down really low - I wanted to get the energy out, and I love it! When I see the old footage of me with long hair I don't even recognize that person, and I've had long hair all my life! No regrets. I still have a lot of variety in my styles, sometimes I wear it straight up or sometimes I have a little more curl in it. I feel freer! I'm not saying I'll never have long hair again but right now, in this moment, I'm still so excited about it!
Traci with THE SOCIAL team (and me!)
You can keep up with Traci Melchor on Twitter, and be sure to catch Season 2 of THE SOCIAL (premiering Tuesday, September 2) weekdays at 1 p.m. ET (2 p.m. AT) on CTV!
I love my carbs. Pasta, breads, crackers, cereals...you name it, I love it (and my daughters seem to be following in my footsteps).
Carbohydrates are an important part of a healthy diet, but I know that all carbs are not created equal, and as I work on improving my nutrition, I asked for some advice from Stefanie Senior, Toronto-based registered dietitian and nutritionist.
Here's the challenge I put forth to her:
My school lunchbag is usually full of carb-y snacks like granola bars and crackers (don't worry, there's dairy in there too, and the girls are great for packing fruit - yes, they pack their own lunches).
I want to be able to purchase my snacks at the grocery store (no homemade granola-bar making for me) and of course I'm looking for yummy flavour.
Stefanie was up for the challenge and came through with some very helpful recommendations, while making the point that ideally each snack should include some carbohydrate AND protein (so I need to remember the cheese when I'm packing my crackers) and be as natural and unprocessed as possible.
Here's what she suggested (some suggestions do have peanuts so I'll choose carefully for work):
Granola Bars: Kashi (this is the only brand she recommends; I picked up their Chocolate Almond and Sea Salt With Chia) Protein bars: Elevate Me, Vega, Quest, The Simply Bar, Taste of Nature (Argentina Peanut Plains) Energy bars: other Taste of Nature bars, Kind, *Lara bar, *Go Raw, Bumble Bar, *Pure organic, Raw Revolution Other carb choices: Air popped popcorn, Crisp Breads (Ryvita, Wasa, Lavash), Finn Crisps, Mary's Crackers, Baked tortilla chips (Que Pasa)
I also got the clear idea from her suggestions that "whole grain" is an important term to look for when I'm buying bread, english muffins, tortillas, etc., and for the most part I'm okay with that, though I still struggle with the taste of whole grain pasta. Mixing half white and half whole grain is a good way to start adjusting the taste buds. While I want to begin with a carbohydrate makeover, Stefanie has several other healthy-snack suggestions from different food groups. Here are my favourites: -light Mini Babybels -low-fat cottage or ricotta cheese -cheese strings -Laughing Cow light -yogurt (Greek is higher in protein) -boiled egg What I love about these suggestions is that I now have some healthier brand-names in mind when I'm scanning the grocery shelves for my school snacks. I've already added Kashi bars, Mary's Crackers, Finn Crisps and Babybels to my shopping list.
Stefanie offers customized nutrition and weight loss plans, sport nutrition counselling, and motivational speaking (among other services) and is available through Skype for anyone across the country looking for assistance.You can find more information as well as some handy resources on her website.
Thanks so much, Stefanie! You have me on the path to (slightly) better nutrition!
Our school is almost completely made up of split-grade classes this year, and parents are eagerly (?) anticipating the announcement of who their children's teachers will be.
I know there can be a lot of anxiety (and some misconceptions) about how class placements are decided, which is why I tackled this topic for my most recent CHEX Daily TV segment. I also discussed, with hosts Caley Bedore and Mike Judson, why it's important for parents to keep their teacher preferences to themselves. If you're positive about your child's teacher, class placement and school in general, your child will be too!
Here's the video clip (I'm at the 33:00 mark if it doesn't cue where it's supposed to)
When was the last time your children had their eyes checked? As a parent, I've been taking my girls to see the eye doctor (officially known as a Doctor of Optometry) since the age of three. I got glasses when I was eight, and wanted to make sure that we don't miss any developing problems my kids may have.
As a teacher, I also see (no pun intended) a huge importance in this annual exam for kids. If students can't see the front of the room, or the words in the book in front of them, how can we expect them to learn? It’s true that undiagnosed vision problems can affect your child’s ability to reach their full potential. I've seen attention and behaviour difficulties which ended up being the result of the fact that the poor kids couldn't see properly.
According to Doctors of Optometry Canada, 1 in 4 school-age children has a vision problem, and since 80% of learning is obtained through vision, an eye exam is vitally important for your child's education...which makes the start of the school year the perfect time to book your appointment. Check out this video from a Doctor of Optometry on vision and problems at school:
While your family doctor may perform a simple sight test, or a screening may be done at school, it's still important to have a comprehensive eye exam from a Doctor of Optometry to identify any potential problems that might exist, with vision or eye health.
It is recommended that infants have their first eye exam between six and nine months of age. Children should have at least one eye exam between the ages of two and five, and then every year after starting school. My girls just had their annual exam, and they were very excited to model for you what you can expect - and are hoping that you will show your children! They also want other kids to know that there's no discomfort whatsoever with the exam. (Okay, maybe they didn't use the words "discomfort" or "whatsoever", but they want kids to know it doesn't hurt at all!) Remember my daughters are six and eight; the steps will be different for very young children and may vary by doctor.
Getting a picture taken of your eyes
Waiting in the doctor's office
Covering one eye with a "spoon" and reading some letters on the wall
Reading letters (or naming pictures, e.g. cake, bird) close-up on a card
Pointing at some pictures (testing depth-perception)
Looking through a neat machine - like a HUGE set of glasses
Putting your chin and forehead in special spots on a machine
so the doctor can look at your eyes REALLY closely
Posing with the amazing optometrist, Dr. Kwiat
(Thanks for letting us take pictures in your office!)
This was actually a very exciting exam for Frannie as she learned that the time has come for glasses, and we spent some time after the appointment trying on frames. I'll be sharing a picture of her chosen pair in the future.
The Doctors of Optometry Canada websiteoffers additional information, including great tips for what to expect in terms of eye health and vision at different phases of childhood, and symptoms that may indicate a problem.
It's also important to note that you don't need a referral to book an appointment. Simply use the theFind a Doctor tool to locate a Doctor of Optometry near you.
Disclosure: This post was brought to you by Doctors of Optometry Canada, however the images and opinions are my own. For more information please visit http://doctorsofoptometry.ca/.