Friday, March 25

Gail Vaz-Oxlade: The Money-Wise Momterview

Television personality Gail Vaz-Oxlade is a busy woman. On her show "Til Debt Do Us Part", she helped couples tackle their money issues, and on her new show "Princess", Gail forces women to stand on their own two financial feet and stop depending on (i.e. taking advantage of) others. Mother of 17 year old Alexandra and 15 year old Malcolm, she is also a columnist and the author of several books, including "Debt-Free Forever", which was the 4th best-selling book in Canada last year.

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Gail kindly agreed to help give me and my readers one of her trademark financial reality checks.

This Mom: What do you think is the biggest money mistake that parents of young children make?

Gail Vaz-Oxlade: They don't take the opportunities of everyday life to teach their children about money. Whether you're banking, shopping, or paying bills, every day presents tons of opportunities for parents to tell kids what they're doing, and encourage them to ask questions about how money works. We are our children's best teachers. We should be doing more to raise money-smart kids.

TM: I know you're in favour of giving kids an allowance. What's the right amount, and should it be tied to chores?

GV: It really depends on your financial circumstances, but I like the rule of thumb of one dollar per year of age, so a seven year old would get $7 a week. I do not believe allowance should be tied to chores. Who pays you to do the dishes or make the bed in your house? Chores are a part of a familial responsibility. An allowance is to put money into childrens' hands so they can learn to manage it. The lessons of working for money will come soon enough when kids get jobs to make more money. They won't always be happy with their allowance! In the meantime, we should set some expectations about what the allowance is for. Teach them to save. Encourage them to share. And get them differentiating between needs and wants in planning their spending. Yup, there's fun money too!

{I really like the idea behind the Save/Spend/Share compartments in the Moonjar Moneybox that we gave Frannie last year, but I have to admit that we certainly haven't been consistent with it.}


TM: Experts seem divided on whether or not parents should pay for their children's educations, or expect the kids to take the responsibility themselves. What camp are you in?

GV: I think those of us who can afford it should save for our children's education. My daughter went to university this year and it's cost about $18,000 a year to keep her in school. I would not want her to graduate with almost $80,000 in student debt for an undergrad degree. She knows I've saved for her. And she knows the rules of the game: she has to pay for 1/3 of school, so she has to work during the summer to make some money. And I don't pay for the same credit twice, so pass, or prepare to ante up to retake a credit! As far as how much to save, you should aim to put away at least as much as it takes to get the total grant money the government is offering {for Canadian RESPs} so that means a total of $2500 per year, per child, assuming you can afford that.

TM: What are some of the earliest tricks for teaching your kids about money?

GV: No tricks! A solid, well-planned and determined approach to giving them a financial education. They learn to save by setting aside 10% of their allowance. They learn to defer gratification and accumulate money for larger purchases by practising "planned spending", which is setting aside some money each week towards a particular goal. This is the same skill that helps us plan for Christmas shopping and paying our annual insurance costs. And they learn to shop smart because we talk to them about how they are influenced as shoppers and we encourage them to comparison shop and look for ways to make their money go further.

{I love using the PBS Kids "Don't Buy It!" website with my class, as it covers advertising tricks, buying smart, etc. in a really engaging way.}

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TM: I'm really enjoying the new show "Princess". Why do you think there seem to be more "princesses" than ever before, and how can I keep my girls from going down that path?

GV: When our daughters idolize starlets, and try to measure themselves against these girls and what they wear, do and have, we run into Princess Syndrome. What most of our girls fail to get is that these starlets are making a lot of money doing the dumb crap they are doing. All that posing and bad behaviour gives them enough money to pay for those shoes, those extensions, those implants. Sadly, our girls who wish they could imitate the starlets just don't make enough money to keep up with the Kardashians. How do we stop our girls from falling into this trap? We talk about what's real and what isn't. We raise them to be independent thinkers and not measure themselves by stuff they can acquire. And we encourage them to be great in real ways, not just based on the length of their lashes or the size of their breasts.

{At least I have long lashes.....}


TM: I love how you always stress that people shouldn't get carried away with saving for the future to the point of not enjoying the present...or keeping others from enjoying the present! Why is this so important?

GV: Hey, life is for laughing and for making other people laugh. If we become so focused on the future and amassing money, we forget the really important things. I used to be very focused on saving for the future because I was afraid of ending up old, alone and poor. When my best friend died at 45, it changed my thinking. I think saving for the future is important, but it's equally important to laugh in the present.

{By "laugh", I'm going to take that as approval for a vacation somewhere warm and tropical this summer, RRSP's be darned!}

TM: How would you complete the sentence "This Mom Loves..."?

GV: This mom loves audio-books, house plants, lavender, ginger-peach candles, David's teas...all kinds of them...bedtime, writing, TV, cooking, and listening to my children's laughter. This mom also loves to listen to her daughter sing.

My thanks to Gail for offering up this free advice. For a ton of tips and resources, and more information about her books and shows, visit Gail's website at http://www.gailvazoxlade.com/.

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

I LOVE Gail and all she has done with regard to finances and sharing about her son's life with Aspergers. Thanks for the great interview!

Jessie's Money said...

This is wonderful! Great Post!